"Could our minds and our hearts be big enough just to hang out in that space where we're not entirely certain about who's right and who's wrong? Could we have no agenda when we walk into, room with another person, not know what to say, not make that person wrong or right? Could we see, hear, feel other people as they really are? It is powerful to practice this way, because we'll find ourselves continually rushing around to try to feel secure again--to make ourselves or them either right or wrong. But true communication can happen only in that space."--Pema Chodron
This concept is pretty deep on the inside if you think about it. We are a society driven by what is right and wrong and rarely do we linger in that space that something just is what it is. Having a touch of OCD this free form approach to communication poses so many problems to me. I am literally an old dog that will have to learn new tricks.
I have been thinking about my mother a lot the last few days. She and I did not see eye to eye most of the time and this was because our perspective on life has always been different. She jumped into the fire and I have always waited until the smoke cleared. One of us had to be right and one of us had to be wrong.
My goal this week is to try and communicate this way to see if it opens more doors than closes them.
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